One with a Shepherd The Tears and Triumphs of a Ministry Marriage
One with a Shepherd The Tears and Triumphs of a Ministry Marriage
One with a Shepherd is a wealth of God’s wisdom and grace for the wife of a man in ministry. It is biblical, practical and personal. Whether one has been a pastor’s wife for some time, or is just starting out, this book will serve as a faithful friend in equipping and encouraging the minister’s wife in her quest to exalt Christ and have joy in the journey.
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5 Stars Mary has so much to offer
If you are considering a life of ministry, or if you are married to a pastor and would like to have ready access to the wisdom of a woman who has spent many years in ministry, Mary Somerville’s book, One with a Shepherd: The Tears and Triumphs of a Ministry Wife, is a very helpful and encouraging work. The 304 pages that make it up are worth their weight in gold. She has served as a pastor’s wife for over three decades. Her and her husband, Bob, have led two churches, one in New Jersey, the other in California.
Covering just about every major aspect of ministry, One with a Shepherd is broken up into sixteen chapters, along with four appendices. Toward the end the author provides a valuable reading list on “Spiritual Growth,” “Marriage,” “Childrearing,” “Home Management,” “Discipling/Counseling,” and every list is filled with very trustworthy authors. Mary writes on such subjects as the importance for pastors’ wives to understand their role in ministry (Chapter 1), coping with loneliness (Chapter 6), how to deal with rebellious children (Chapter 10), and the importance of discipling other women (Chapter 14).
One of the topics that grabbed my attention most was what she wrote about pastors’ wives defining their role in the church, so as not to fall into the trap of having to live up to the unbiblical expectations of others (a notorious problem in churches). For example, she writes, “If you want to be free from the burden of false guilt, you should first determine if you have yielded to non-biblical expectations.” And further, “Realize too that we do not answer to everyone else; we answer to God alone for our actions…This means turning a deaf ear to the complaints and criticisms that are ungrounded” (p. 3). Another area Mary deals with that caught my attention is an issue that is seldom treated in books on ministry: the pain inflicted by members of the church. She says: “We suffer from people deserting us by changing churches. At other times they hurt us by staying in the church and attacking us with criticism, complaints, and gossip. Finally they may completely reject our ministry and us. We are tempted to give up in despair, but God actually wants to use these hurts that people inflict to strengthen us” (p. 64).
The wisdom, insight, and experience of the author make this a valuable resource for any pastor’s wife, and any woman whose husband is preparing for ministry. Discussing the trials and tribulations of leading a church while in seminary would have better prepared me for ministry. And my wife would have been better prepared for our work if she’d had a book like this early on. This really is a tremendous work. Every pastor’s wife–and every woman who is planning on becoming a pastor’s wife–should read it. While many people may want to write a book, there are some that can only be written through experience. This is that type of book. Mary Somerville has so much to offer that any reader can quickly tell she is not simply passing on information, but passing on her life experiences, those that are common to the wife of any pastor. I wish there was a similar work for pastors. – Ray Hammond, Christian Book Previews.com
4 Stars Helpful resource for wives of men in evangelical ministry
One with a Shepherd: The Tears and Triumphs of a Ministry Marriage by Mary Somerville is one of the more helpful books on what it means to be the wife of a man in ministry. Coming from an evangelical and conservative Christian perspective Mrs. Somerville speaks directly and honestly about life in the parsonage, vicarage or manse. Having been in this place myself I have been encouraged by reading this book and I use it when working with wives of men in seminary as well as wives of men in their first full-time church setting. No book is perfect but of the hundreds out there, many of which I have read or skimmed addressing this topic I would highly recommend this book. A great companion read would be Liberating Ministry from the Success Syndrome
5 Stars Excellent book for all ladies whose husband is in the ministry
This book was truly written by a lady who has “been there – done that”. I also am married to a pastor and I couldn’t have said it better than her. She covered all the bases and did it with scripture and personal experience. I can highly recommend this book!
5 Stars The best book for pastor’s wives or any lay woman!
Excellent, insightful….the best book for christian women written!
5 Stars A Must Read!!
This book is a tremendous help to Pastor’s wives! Practical, scriptural, and encouraging — I’ve purchased many copies and given them as gifts to other ministry wives.
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